“I need a vacation.” That’s a phrase that has likely been stated by every adult in America over a hundred times in the past year. Everyone would like to get away from their daily routines and travel, but time constraints, obligations, and sometimes, finances get in the way. Though these are all very important factors to consider before planning a trip, there are is one factor that takes the cake – your health. If you’re feeling overwhelmed physically and mentally, you NEED a vacation alone.
Solo trips are therapeutic in that they give you time to yourself. You don’t have to worry about caring for your kids, tending to your spouse’s needs, or anything like that. The trip is solely for your benefit and revolves completely around your happiness, comfort, and desires. This free time allows you to focus on resting, relaxing, and finding things that bring you pleasure. It’s stepping outside of your comfort zone, seizing the moment, and releasing those overwhelming feelings.
Think it’s time you hit the road alone? Here are a few signs you’re probably right:
You’re fed up with everyone – do you get annoyed, irritated, or frustrated by everyone that crosses your path? Do you find people that you normally enjoy to be difficult to tolerate for too long? Have you found yourself yelling and isolating yourself more often than not? There’s nothing to be ashamed of if you have, as everyone feels this way on occasion. You’re overwhelmed and starting to take it out on those that may not even have anything to do with your feelings. The best thing you can do is take a trip so that you can have that freedom and flexibility to be alone with your own thoughts and feelings.
You’re taking pills or popping the bottle more than usual – it’s not uncommon for the average person to feel overwhelmed and try to pacify their pain with an alcoholic beverage or to take medication to calm their nerves, boost their mood, or help them sleep. Though not a preferred method to use at all, when you’re using pills and alcohol to deal with your circumstances, eventually, your body gets used to it. You develop a tolerance that results in you having to use more and more to get any form of satisfaction. If you’ve reached this point, however, the only solo trip you should be planning is to safe and spacious detox facilities or a drug and alcohol rehab with outpatient treatment to beat addiction.
You’re wallowing in your circumstances – when life gives you lemons, it’s only natural to sit and stir for a while. At some point, however, it is ideal that you find a way to move past the problem and get back to some normalcy. Wallowing in your sorrows for weeks, months, and years, is horrible to your emotional health. If all you do is sulk and think about your problems, chances are you need to start planning that solo vacation.
You’re performing poorly – Are you missing deadlines at work? Has your work been recently rated as subpar? Forget to pick your kids up from school? Not as productive at PTO meetings? Poor performance can be attributed to physical and/or mental exhaustion. Seemingly, you’re so overwhelmed by what’s consuming you, that you’re unable to focus on things you’re normally good at like your job or parenting. If you’ve been making a lot of senseless mistakes, forgetting a lot, or simply don’t have the energy and inspiration to perform as you used to it’s time for some alone time on a beautiful island somewhere.
You just feel lost – You can’t put your finger on it, but something about you and your life just isn’t right at the moment. You want to be in a better place, aren’t happy with the direction you’re traveling, or simply want to live a life of purpose, but you feel like life is getting out of control. Going on a trip alone gives you space away from the norm to really assess your life, your goals, and the factors that could be hindering you from getting where you want to be. Traveling alone can help you find the confidence in yourself to push forward for better days.
Planning a family vacation, going on a romantic getaway with your significant other, or even a few days out of town with friends are all amazing. But, that doesn’t negate the importance of getting away on your own. If you’ve been feeling any of the signs listed above, it’s time for you to take a trip by yourself. Plan a spa trip, go on a wellness retreat, make it an adventure trip, just do something that is solely for the healing and growth of you.